A new chapter, but no words
I have been anticipating the silence. I have been making a mental list of all the things I would get done, the minute you were gone. Spending time apart is nothing new for us. I went back to work part time when you were six months old. So we are good at good-byes. But today…
Read MoreBirthday Wishes
One of my favourite parts about becoming a mum was the whole new world of party planning that opened up. As my own birthdays became less important and less celebrated, the birthdays of my children became indulgent, extravagant affairs. With AJ, I knew that his first birthday was going to be huge, even before he…
Read MoreI Believe in Angels
Be careful what you wish for. The reality of AJ being seen at the Royal Children’s Hospital for his allergies and eczema was one of a six-to-twelve month wait. I wished it was sooner. Most mothers spend their lives wanting to keep their children out of hospital and here I was desperately wishing mine in.…
Read MoreDo you start with onions?
Mindlessly one Monday morning I found myself walking into the pantry, reaching down to the tub of brown onions. I pulled one out and walked back into the kitchen. With even less thought, I reached for the chopping board, then the knife. Within moments, the brown onion had been peeled, peelings thrown into the bin,…
Read MoreThe First Bite
A cold, wet Sunday. We were feeling lazy and deprived of our old life. We bundled up AJ, packed too much into the baby bag and headed into town. Sundays were once spent idling through stores, having long coffees, late lunches and had an incredible sense of lightness. We dared to feel that again. The…
Read MoreWho’s Afraid of the Big Bad Wolf?
Being pregnant with PJ and chasing a toddler at the same time meant that my second pregnancy was a whirlwind. I barely noticed the nine months passing. I barely noticed the anxiety of being pregnant again. I barely noticed the anxiety of birth. I barely noticed the anxiety of that first night. I barely noticed…
Read MoreThere is a Wolf in my House
It was the dead of night. I was five months pregnant. I woke up. Frantic. Heart racing. Blood pumping. I was sweating. I grabbed my husband and screamed “there’s a wolf in the house!” He bolted upright in bed. Confused, scratching his head, “What?” “A wolf. I can hear it running through the house downstairs,…
Read MoreLessons from my two Zombies
Traditions run strong in my family. I embrace the old traditions of my culture and am working hard to make those traditions something my boys love and treasure. I believe that tradition can help shape who we are and how we all fit together. Yet, at the same time I treat tradition like a pizza…
Read MoreThe First Night
I look back on that first night and the memory is a haze. I couldn’t think. I could barely move. Your Dad was on a roll-out bed on the floor next to me. You were in one of those hospital plastic cots beside him. I was dead tired. Drained. Exhausted. In pain. You were crying.…
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