Pieces of Me

A Caution Against the Truth


Late last week, in a closed room with a hushed voice I overheard hubby on the phone speak the words “lies have run laps around the earth, before truth has a chance to get its boots on.” I paused at the door, holding onto the handle, my heart sinking knowing that here we are about to do this again.

Sometimes what we see, in our lives and in the lives of others, is so far removed from the truth that there stops being any clarity or definition. Sometimes the truth we think we see becomes the reason behind our decisions and the words we choose to say. Sometimes we need to step back and realise that our perception of this truth may be wrong.


The words I choose to share on these pages, in these posts, are the glimpses of truth I allow into my life. Yet, they are only glimpses. The small insights that are often only a snapshot or Instagram picture of what is going on. Kidspot nominations. BlogHer excitement. Words. Redundancy. Death. Uncertainty. More glimpses into my world.

While I feel that we do not always have to share our secrets or our inner most thoughts. I think we always need to be compassionate. You just never know what someone is going through. Even when you wholeheartedly think you do know what is going on, you may only know very little.

Yesterday I read a post that reminded me how important it is to be compassionate in our lives. The simplicity of it was quite raw and honest. We can never know the full truth of anyone else’s life. We may never know the full truth of our own lives. But we can always be compassionate and kind. We can always reserve our judgements.

Life, even at the best of times, can tumble over and over on itself. Dragging you through the motions of doubt and uncertainty and pulling you into every direction. You do not always need to define the moments. Sometimes it is perhaps better to leave them undefined. To sit and let them move past you, head in your hands, breathing.


What we can do is caution ourselves against what we think is the truth. Be kind to ourselves in moments of doubt and uncertainty. Be careful with the words and intent we choose to interact with others. For when it is all said and done, when all the phone calls have been made and the decisions finalised, we are left holding on to how we feel and how the words that were spoken made others feel.

We cannot underestimate that in a society so focused on being connected, we sometimes do the complete and far opposite. Late last week, hubby’s phone call ended in uncertainty, leaving the power of truth to fend for itself in a corporate world driven by ego. I was left running circles in my mind of all the possibilities that could result from that phone call. One day I will forget those thoughts and only remember how incredible it was to reach out to friends and find support, encouragement, kind words and compassion.


Are you in a place of uncertainty or truth?
Does our society need more compassion, less judgement?


Disclosure: A Caution against the Truth was written in collaboration with Westralian Auto Finance, expert finance consultants who are experienced in finding the right finance to best suit your personal or business needs. Sometimes you just never know when you need a little help. All opinions expressed are my own.

  • Renee at Mummy, Wife, Me

    Sending you hugs, Josefa. I hope this period of uncertainty doesn’t last long and that you and your family can get back to normality soon. I really enjoyed Deb’s post earlier this week. I can’t understand people who troll and judge others. Let’s hope we never have to deal with any of that. Hugs xx

    • Deb’s post spoke so powerfully to me, trolling and judging makes me really quite sad – that some poeple can behave in such a way to each other xx

  • mumabulous

    Yes of course we should collectively withhold judgement until all (or most of) the facts are known. At the same time is anything ever certain?

    • Maybe you are right, maybe reality is merely fleeting, leaving nothing certain xx

  • LydiaCLee

    I hope everything is alright. I love that expression about the lies running the globe before the truth has even got it’s boots on…I’m off to look at Debs post, I’m not sure I saw it…

    • Yes, I quite liked it too when hubby said, sometimes he has some great words of wisdom that hubby of mine xx

  • Much love to you dear. Uncertainty is perhaps one of the cruelest things x

  • Leanne Shea Langdown

    Hugs from me!
    Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit

  • I trust that you are ok, and if you are not, I have a hug here for you. xS

  • Grace

    Our society definitely needs less judgement – I love that quote from War and Peace, “Where there is judgement, there is injustice” It’s so very true and poignant.

    • I like that quote too Grace, thanks for sharing – maybe it is true of ourselves even?

  • My Aunts life is full of uncertainty at the moment, my Uncle passed away only today and we are all struggling with the uncertainty of her future. With everyone supporting her I know she will be fine though……

  • Yes you never know what someone is hiding or can’t reveal and so we must treat others as we would like to be treated. I battle with this as have close friends who I can’t ‘get’ sometimes, the way they treat me is downright rude sometimes, could be a younger generation thing too? x

    • Oh I think being rude is a whole different thing – and yes maybe it is a younger generation thing? Oh….don’t get me started on rudeness Em…..

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