Pieces of Me


Who am I? Last year, I stood in front of the bathroom mirror a great number of times, and asked that of the pale-faced, brunette staring back at me. That shy little brunette never answered. Yet her smile seemed to get cheekier, a little slyer each time I asked the question. The glint in her eye as she looked back at me seemed to have a little hint of a sparkle. I simply scratched my head, pulled my hair back in a pony-tail and walked back out of that bathroom.

In the distance, looming, is the Big One. The big ONE ZERO. Ten years. Ten years married. Ten years happily ever after. There has been a chaos of voices in my head. Much like the Queen Victoria Market, late in the afternoon on a Saturday, as the stall holders scramble to clear their remaining fruit and vegetables for the day. Prices being bellowed out into the air: “Artichokes, four for one dollar”. Children laughing. Old ladies haggling. That chaos has been going on in my head, every time I ask myself how we are going to celebrate this milestone.

The chaos sounds a little like this;
“It’s a milestone, we should celebrate!” “Is it a milestone, do we need to celebrate?”
“Should we go on a trip?” “Can we afford a trip?”
“I want another diamond ring!” “Do I need another ring?”
“What about the kids?”

I made the chaos worse by entertaining some of my ideas online. Searching for travel deals to Bora Bora, looking for romantic escapes to Daylesford. Slowly, the ideas were all swirling up and a cyclone was on the horizon.

One Monday of no particular importance, a clear, confident voice spoke inside my head. The voice was strong and resonated throughout me. “Stop looking, stop the torment, something good will come.” Strangely, I felt a sense of calm, of peace, and I stopped looking. That night, I told hubby about my resolve. He laughed at me a little, smiled and agreed with that voice “yes, something good will come.”

Two days later I woke up to another travel deal email: Bora Bora on sale for a fraction of the price. I quickly forwarded the email to hubby, while I juggled kindy drop-offs, speech pathology appointments and a coffee with one of my cousins. Hubby researched the deal only to find that there were no flights included. Disappointment. I thought this was the “something good.”


Later that afternoon, I received a message from my cousin: ‘Jetstar have a sale to Hawaii, check it out’. I had forty-five minutes before I started work, so I jumped online. My anxiety grew. In front of me were cheap flights to Hawaii. Very cheap flights. I typed our anniversary dates into the search engine. My heart skipped a beat – the sale fares were valid for our dates! Like a mad woman, I rang hubby. He didn’t answer. I kept ringing him, barraging him with missed calls. The fares were selling out super fast. I didn’t know what to do.

I imagined landing in Hawaii: with the welcome at the airport, the floral lei’s, the sunshine, the atmosphere, the shopping! I imagined our twentieth anniversary, and how much older we would be going to Hawaii in another ten years. This was my “something good.”


I stared at the screen. Cursor blinking. Finally, hubby called back. I don’t even remember what I said. Something about Hawaii and fares being cheap. Afterwards, he told me that I made no sense whatsoever when he spoke to me.

Click! Two return flights to Hawaii, for half the price of the normal fare.

Two tickets. Not four. Just TWO.



I walked into my bathroom. Rested my hands on the sink and stared into the mirror. Who are you again?

Have you made an impulsive decision? Do you celebrate anniversaries?

  • Rhianna

    Oh gosh that is so exciting. We have our wedding tenth anniversary next year, though the tenth anniversary of our first date is at the end of the month. I don’t think I will make it to Hawaii for either! Hope you have a fantastic time (I am sure you will, how could you not)

  • Leanne Shea Langdown

    Hi Josefa. Aloha.
    My husband and I also celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary in Hawaii, We actually took the kids though (and my parents) and renewed our wedding vows while we were there. It was magical.It wasn’t an impulsive decision though. My daughter (who was eight at the time of our wedding vow renewal) had always scolded us for “not waiting for her before we got married”. She wanted to be part of the wedding! So we told her we would get married again on our anniversary. So ours was years in the making.
    I love Hawaii. Great energy. You’ll have a ball!
    Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit

    • what a wonderful story Leanne! Time is getting closer to our trip and I can’t wait!

  • How exciting!! Spontaneity at its best. Have a ball 🙂

  • That will be fantastic! We were all considering Hawaii for the Christmas just gone but I had a baby instead. Congratulations on 10 years! X

  • *squeeeeeeeee* i have goosebumps! I’m lucky enough to have been to Hawaii a couple of times, you will have an amazing time! we’ve got 3 years until our 10th anniversary and Bora Bora has always been high on hubby’s list of places he wants to go. IF we start saving $50 a week NOW and can keep it up for 3 years, we MIGHT be able to afford it!

  • So excited for you! Hawaii is awesome. Dave and I have always said we want to go back to the private island resort in Fiji where we spent out honeymoon for our 10th anniversary and even with 5 years to go I can’t wait! Pretty much need to start saving next year too! Congratulations!

  • How marvellous! So excited for you! 😀

  • I’ve never made an impulsive decision of that magnitude, but what an exciting this to do! Maybe I can convince boatman for us to do something for our tenth, it’s 2 and a half years away so he can start saving 🙂

  • How exciting! Something to really look forward to. How far away is it? Are those your quilts? They are beautiful! I haven’t made an impulsive decision of that magnitude for a long time…but I’d really like to! 😉

    • Our anniversary is in March, so not too far away! The quilt belongs to my boys. My mum holidayed in Hawaii a few years ago, and came home with this gorgeous quilt for them from there xx

  • Implusiveness was a before child activity. These days everything is much more planned when it’s to be about DH and I. I love Hawaii and we travelled there last year as family, awesome place for a holiday! Enjoy!

  • Shari

    Wow Josefa, how exciting!! I love this story – see good things DO fall into place! 🙂
    We don’t celebrate anniversaries, but I’ve been known to be a little impulsive at times 🙂

  • mumabulous

    I hope you have the BEST time!

  • rhian @melbs

    You will have the most AMAZING time, we went to Hawaii for our Honeymoon, it was absolutely fabulous, and I guess half price flights make it all the sweeter. Enjoy! Mahalo. 🙂

  • Kirsty @ My Home Truths

    I hope you have the best time. I can’t do spontaneous at all – I’m very envious of you!

  • Rita

    That’s great! I wish you a wonderful trip!

  • Grace

    Oh, fabulous! I totally believe in going with your gut instincts on these things! Good for you! It’s definitely something very, very good!!

  • Cathy

    We went to Hawaii for our honeymoon and would love to return one day! We didn’t have a big holiday for our 10th anniversary but it was wonderful just the same 🙂 Hope you enjoy it xx

  • Sophie Allen

    Oh that was the best click ever! Good on you Josefa! I am super excited and envious of you. When is you anniversary? Our 10 year is in April.

  • Good for you! I am not impulsive enough. Or scratch that. I’ve learned not to be because money doesn’t permit. Otherwise I most definitely would be doing that kind of thing a LOT.

  • I am somewhat too indecisive to be very impulsive. But a trip to Hawaii….I have only good memories….a brilliant holiday….left a lasting impression…too bad it was 11 years ago!

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