Pieces of Me

One Word

Trying to sum up the complexity of who we are in one word seems a bit ridiculous. Nevertheless, social media seems to be the breeding ground for ridiculous and one morning as I was drinking my coffee a post popped up on my feed, something along the lines of asking someone you know to define you in one word.

It struck a chord.

The whole one word phenomenon is not new. Many people start the year choosing one word to define the year ahead for them. There are even some people who believe one word can change your whole life.


I never really participated in the one word game. I seemed to always end the year with a clear word I could use to define it, but rarely started my year with one. But this post was something different entirely.

I don’t know why, but the idea of asking someone to define me in one word, sparked my curiosity. Maybe it stroked my ego more than it sparked my curiosity, but let’s go with curiosity for now. Immediately I began to think of singular words to describe myself: writer   mother   hard-worker

Yet they all seemed to be words to describe something I did. I wanted a word that described who I was. I drove to work that day with words popping like bubbles in my mind. Walked through the office door and asked my sister (who I work with on some days) what is one word you would use to describe me?


She hesitated and I almost got upset that she did. Finally she said ambitious.

By then I had chosen a word to describe myself. That word was generous. I felt quite happy with generous. Yet here I was being told I was ambitious. That was nothing like generous. They were not the same. Did it matter? Was one better than the other?

In the grand scheme of things it does not matter. We are complex human beings with no possibility of being described in one word, no matter how amazing or perfect that word could be.

What it does show however is our need to be loved, to be accepted and understood by the people we love and care about the most. Especially ourselves.


The word my sister chose mattered so much to me because she is my baseline. She is not my only baseline, but she is an important one. If she didn’t “get” me, understand where I was coming from or how I wanted to come across to the world, what hope did I have that anyone else would?

I could go on about the swings and roundabouts of perception and reality that the whole idea of this posts brings up. But this is a post not a thesis. So in the light of “research” for this post I asked four other important people in my life what word they would choose for me.


PJ’s godmother and long-time friend chose thoughtful. One of my dearest cousins also chose thoughtful. One of my dearest friends and confidants chose loyal. Small pieces of what they think. I wonder what word I would choose for them?

One words cannot define us, but they can give us an insight. Would our heart and our minds choose the same word? And if they didn’t what would that tell us?

My sister-in-law chose a very interesting word for me. Perhaps the only one that made me laugh. Not because of the word, but because it is not the first time someone has used this word to describe me.


Would you like to play along?
What is one word you would use to describe yourself?
Ask someone you love what word they would choose to describe you?
Come back and let me know in the comments xx

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  • Oh fun. Um… ambitious? Kind (mostly)? Independent? Social? It’s a hard one!

    • It is hard! I think you are creative, inspiring, ambitious and most definitely – a dreamer 🙂

  • Oh you’re definitely superwoman in my eyes and I would say generous too. As for me, hmm friendly? Kind? I’ll ask Dave what he thinks my one word is when he wakes up and report back.

  • TeganMC

    Hmmm this is a hard one. Fierce, may be. I know if I asked my partner he’d say crazy lol!

  • Natalie @ Our Parallel Connect

    I love this as I am more than one word too. Ambitious. Loyal. Emotional. Loving. Exhausted ….

  • I will have to ask my hubby what one word he would use to describe me. Maybe determined?

  • Interesting exercise. But perhaps it’s better to do in review? “This year I felt I was thoughtful” so that you build up a self sustaining idea of who you are and what you are.

    • It is easy to do in review – but this is more about who you are and less about the year that was xx

  • I don’t know what words anyone would use for me, but I would hope that loyal and kind are up there 🙂

    • When my friend said I was loyal it struck a chord – always nice to be considered loyal xx

  • I’d like my one word to be kind. But some of the kids would disagree. I hope they might say it was firm. I need to be just at this stage.

    • Being just is a virtuous word to describe who you are – more so if our kids think we are 🙂

  • I don’t know what word would describe me! I chose a word for this year though – determined. I’m partnering it with last year’s word, steady. Hoping it gets me somewhere, although I’m not entirely sure where ‘somewhere’ is anymore. x

    • I think determined can be an excellent word to describe both you & the year, although chocolate keeps popping into mind….hmmmmm don’t know why 😉

  • First off, can we just talk about the pictures in this post? So cute! I love your Smurf T-shirt. You can now add word model to your resume! I didn’t do the one word thing this year because I have commitment issues and couldn’t commit to just one. I can think of words that don’t describe me, like ambitious, committed and mature for starters but I can’t think of one word that does. However, I did ask hubby and he said “enthusiastic.” I’m quite happy with that 🙂

    • I absolutely LOVE my Smurf T-shirt and my son took the photos so all credit goes to him 🙂 I think hubby did awesome! Enthusiastic is a beautiful word to describe you xx

  • Great post. I believe we are different things to different people, hence the different words. I would find this a challenge for me. No, I will give it a go. Helpful.

    • Helpful is perfect for you Denyse! I found this quite challenging and still do if I sit and think about ti long enough….

  • That’s so hard as an exercise. You have some good words to ponder in the mix of the lovely person you are though. I think I’m quite ‘deep’ so maybe thoughtful might be ok for me..

    • I like deep, I think it goes quite well with thoughtful. The more I look over this post, the more I realise that together, the words are good and paint more of a picture of who I am than any one word ever could xx

  • I think at the moment it would have to be “confused” but I would hope some people would say “kind”

    • Kind is a good word, hope ‘confused’ doesn’t linger around for too long 🙂

  • It’s funny, I wonder if your sister would have chosen that word if you hadn’t asked her while you were both at work. What if you asked her while you were cuddling one of your boys on your lap? I bet the answer would have been different. #TeamIBOT

    • What a very interesting insight, you have me thinking about this now, perhaps I’ll surprise her and ask her again one day under different circumstances…

  • LydiaCLee

    I’d have to go with indecisive – because I can’t pick just one word! See what I did there? 😉

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