Pieces of Me

Mother’s Day

The heavy curtains of our bedroom are thrown open to the morning sun. I awake as two beautiful children bound into my bed, bearing gifts that are perfectly wrapped with white, glossy paper with thick yellow ribbon. Hubby is behind them, balancing a tray bearing freshly brewed coffee, poached eggs, the Sunday paper and a single yellow rose. The children show their affection with lots of hugs and kisses. Then they sit and wait patiently for me to open my gifts. One is a beautiful thick knit jumper, the other a new pyjama set and soft bed jacket. Hubby ushers the boys to give me another kiss and cuddle, then to head on downstairs, so I can read the paper and enjoy breakfast – in bed – resting and relaxing.


Instead, Mother’s Day morning sounds more like this.

“Hurry up, we are going to be late for Church.”
“Have you brushed your teeth yet?”
Yes, you have to brush them every day.”
“Where’s your other shoe?”
No, you cannot wear your Spiderman costume today.”
“Josefa, coffee?” Hubby asks while I try to pack my bag, a spare set of clothes for the boys and gather all the presents we need to give out that day.
“I’d love one.”

Mother's Day

Mother’s Day drives me a little crazy. It is only one little day. One little day to go to Church, visit my mother, visit my grandmother, visit my mother-in-law and find time to sit down and eat huge, never ending meals with all these people. By the end of the day, I am consumed by the running around and completely exhausted from the kid-wrangling needed to get through the day. All I want is to crawl into bed, wishing for Monday morning to come along.

My first Mother’s Day was different. AJ was barely eight weeks old. My Dad bought me so many flowers, that they filled my house. Dad always buys flowers for Mum on Mother’s Day. So many, he often fills the house with them. I will never forget how important that on my first Mother’s Day – he did the same for me. First Mother’s Day’s are different. I always make an effort to send friends or family a little card on their first Mother’s Day – as a way of saying “you are doing a great job and are an awesome Mum.” I have even gone as far as buying a little gift or book for those first-time Mum’s – because it is just so special to be remembered. Any reassurance in those early days – can be a God-send. I know, because I craved that reassurance myself.

Mother's Day

This year, while I would love a new pyjama, a chunky jumper or just something cute – I don’t need anything. I really don’t. What I need is to try my hardest, not to be consumed by the running around and kid-wrangling needed to get through the day. To try and take a moment to remember why that first Mother’s Day was so special and why I need to remember that – each and every year.

How will you be spending Mother’s Day?

Disclosure: Sussan gifted me a voucher to spoil myself a little this Mothers Day. They have some gorgeous knit wear and very cute home wares. Spoil yourself or someone you love, this Mother’s Day at Sussan. All opinions expressed are my own.







  • Oh that first scenario sounds perfect. Won’t happen here either. All I want is a day with my little family. Not having to worry about work, money, time management or cooking. That is all. Oh, and no squabbling from Miss 7 & Miss 4 – but that may be too much to ask!

    • Can you even imagine a household where that first scenario was even possible? how fabulous would that be!

  • Robyn (Mrs D)

    haha, this sounds so much like our house!! Unfortunately my mum lives soooo far away and I wish that I could just pop over for a visit!! I hope you manage to have a more relaxed than normal day (and I’m sure you’ll get lots of kisses) xxx

  • Loree

    The best part of Mother’s Day are all the kisses I get from my little one. I cherish them because he will soon feel to grown up to kiss mummy. I left you an award on my blog.

  • Leanne Shea Langdown

    Well, for the last few years I have organised a mothers day picnic where all of us come together in one spot with everyone taking responsibility for some of the food so as to spread the love. If we make it a BBQ brunch then the men will often take charge so the mums can actually sit back and relax. It includes me (of course) my mum, my husband’s mum, my sister-in-law, and a couple of extra extended family members. Weather permitting we have it at a park so there is no clean up at home. It lasts for hours as the kids and dogs play. I love it!! We do the same for fathers day too when the calendar allows for it (this year Dad will miss out due to a cheerleading competition that runs ALL DAY).
    Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit

    • Sounds like the perfect Mother’s Day scenario! Hope the weather behaved istelf for you guys xx

  • LydiaCLee

    The woman who invented Mother’s Day was so disgusted by the fact that people started sending cards instead of writing letters to their mothers on mothers day that she actually petitioned the government to stop it being a holiday. (she said something along the lines of it being a sorry state of affairs that a child was too lazy to put pen to paper)
    My gripe with Mother’s day is I have to donate a $5 pressie and then PAY $5 to buy same said(ish) pressie back.
    I have little expectations of Mothers Day, but at least I don’t have the pressure of having to think of a Fathers Day gift…

    • I read up on the history of Mother’s Day before I wrote this post and was quite shocked how it all came about xx

  • Pip (@melbournelass)

    oh your dad is just beautiful Josefa. And you are also a gem for spoiling people on their first mother’s day. I was covered in tears for my first – emotional, she was only 2wks old and hubby didn’t mark the occasion (oh and it was my b’day!) needless to say he’s marked mother’s day ever since.

    • Just sent off another First Mother’s day card this year – it takes so little to remember and means so much when you do xx

  • We will be in the Hunter Valley on a bit of a ‘baby-moon’ as we are heading up for a friends wedding. We were going to take Punky but then Dave made me realise that this would be our last (and in essences our first) chance for a weekend all to ourselves before the next bub comes along. My sister is minding Punky and when we pick her up on Sunday afternoon my Mum is meeting us there and we are going to have a BBQ together. I’m looking forward to it!

    I think you are so right that first mother’s days are so important. Punky was 6 months old and my Mum had us over for lunch the day before (so that I didn’t have to get up and go anywhere on the Sunday and could have a sleep-in!) and she had bought a little present for Punky to give to me, a World’s Best Mum coffee mug and teddy bear. She said her Mum had given her a little teddy bear on her very first mother’s day and she wanted to do the same. I will never forget that and hope I can do the same for my girls one day.

  • Francesca WritesHere

    Haha, yes sometimes the idea of Mother’s Day and the reality are two different things. I was asked what I wanted for Mother’s Day this year and my response was: “A kiss”. I know the kids will make / buy little things for me, but really, I just want their lovely affection.

    I’m visiting from Francesca’s Festa of Favourites – this post was added to the May link up 🙂

    • Thank you for adding this post to your linky – will swing past and say hello xx

  • I’ve been a mum for 23 years and somehow Mother’s Day is never about me. Until now. This year I’ll be spending the morning doing something that I want to do – running in the Mother’s Day classic. Hopefully I’ll be able to catch up with my mum for breakfast afterwards. I’m sure I’ll be famished!
    Enjoy your day, even if it does involve running around and kid-wrangling. 🙂

  • This Mothers Day I will be spending it with my family who I lost contact with for over 17+years so its going to be very different. Actually we are spending time together on the Saturday
    And will be something that I will treasure.
    Not sure what I will be doing with my little ones on the Sunday! But I think I would just love peace and quiet.

  • oh man, I was smiling reading the first part then realised that’s NOT what happens! he he! I hope you get something lovely for mother’s day, and in the craziness of it all, remember your gorgeous father – what an amazing man! – and your beautiful boys. xo

    • Turns out, it was a great Mother’s Day after all Aroha, hope you were spoiled with hugs, kisses and lovely pressies xx

  • Grace

    Ah yes, I need to learn how not to be consumed by the kid wrangling and the general chaos that comes with parenting!
    Have a great Mother’s Day. Hopefully I’ll be running the Mother’s Day Classic like I did last year x

  • Rita

    Happy Mother’s Day Josefa in advance! I hope you’ll get a bit of relaxing time on the day!

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