Pieces of Me


As a mother it is easy to think that my indulgences have come down to basic human needs. Sleep. Quiet. Time. But the truth is I do have indulgences. They may have changed since the days pre-children, but they are there all the same. Now I could wax lyrical about my indulgence on food, shoes and books. But my truest indulgence is….eye-candy.

Now once upon a time that may have meant gazing at the likes of David Beckham or George Clooney in glossy magazines. But today my desires are less likely to be driven by my hormones and more so by my need to escape, even if it is only in my mind.

I always start my day with coffee. I almost always drink that coffee sitting in front of my computer. The minute I’ve checked up on Facebook I switch to Asos, my first indulgence for the day. I sit and scroll through their newly added items. Fantasise about wearing clothes that I don’t need and dream about having a figure that could pull off those clothes. I update my wish list almost every morning. There is never any real intent to buy any of the clothes (unless they are drastically reduced on sale of course!) But looking is enough to satisfy the craving.


I indulge in home wares sites. My home is merely an extension of Toys R Us at the moment, but I do love to dream that it wasn’t. I get lost in the world of Zara Home, West Elm and Anthropologie, knowing full well that the practicalities of the designs do not fit the function of our little family home. But part of me wished that they did. I often imagine indulging and buying lavish items that serve no purpose other than to look beautiful. Even though my reality seems to be white cube bookshelves and storage from Masters, indulging in the possibility of chevron throw rugs and rows of scented candles keeps me believing that somewhere these beautiful apartments exist and one day I won’t have as many toys stuffed into each corner of this house.

zara home

My indulgences are slave to food websites and blogs. Oh my goodness. Food porn is a sweet and salacious indulgence and I sure do lick my fingers in happiness scrolling from one incredible recipe to another. Dinner at our place falls into one category – quick and easy, which often means I am serving almost the same meals on a very tight rotating roster. No one complains, everyone is fed and tummies do go to bed full. But what I would give to dip my toe in the world of lavish meals! Till then I’ll feed my eyes with the sensations that these sites offer and enjoy the lack of calories as a result.

smitten kitchen

Perhaps these indulgences really showcase the voyeur in me. Who knows? But it is these little indulgences, these imaginary whims and spending sprees that help keep me sane. With hardly any dint to the family budget and no need to even change out of my pj’s and ugg boots, these indulgences can make all the difference in my day sometimes.

What are your indulgences?


Writers Reveal is a once a month post that links the talents of Emily, Melissa, Jodi, JC, Becky, Rhianna, Ashley, Emily and me. The topic this month was sent to me by Jodi: My idea for you is just one simple word: indulgence.

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  • bodyandfeetretreat

    I like looking at jewellery !! Stuff I will never buy because I would rather spend that money travelling – but I do love some nice looking jewellery !!
    Have the best day and I love how looking at the food porn keeps the calories off !!!!

  • Love your work Josefa. The thing I love about indulgences are that they don’t need to be lavish, the simplicity of browsing over coffee is just perfect. x

  • Great post! I love your list of indulgences! My biggest indulgence is definitely sugar. My day is not complete without a sweet treat of some kind, even if it’s just a small piece of chocolate or a little extra sugar in the morning coffee!

  • Nice idea of indulging! My biggest indulgence is chocolate. And boy oh boy, do I indulge!
    Otherwise it’s reading. Unfortunately, instead of finding suitable time to read, I just cut into the already short on supply sleep time. But I consider it worthwhile!

  • Renee at Mummy, Wife, Me

    Love this little insight into you! I indulge in celebrity gossip. Can’t get enough of it 🙂 Love the DUF DUF button. Very cute!

  • Emily Morgan

    Mmmm, I love your indulgences. It is the little things that make life worth living. I also love to look at homes and picture my dream decor! And what is life without a little food indulgence!

  • Loree

    Ooo I love Zara Home and Anthropologie too. My biggest indulgence is dark, very dark, chocolate.

  • LydiaCLee

    If I can steal it, I read in the sunny backyard on the beanbag. Or have a bath with a book. Or go to the movies. They’d be my top three indulgences.
    Or buying books. Infact, I indulge myself a lot.

  • Leanne Shea Langdown

    Lovely indulgences! I can’t think of any of mine that you already don’t know about. I’m boring, I guess my big one is the Friday night champagne, magazine and nibbles in the bath.

  • Such lovely indulgences – I have to say that I get quiet upset when I look at looking clothes, linen and homewares because I know I don’t have the budget for it right now – thanks for sharing 🙂

  • AParentingLife

    My indulgence is my blog and the crazy notion that I will one day be a writer. After that it is craft and thinking I can make things!

  • Grace

    Oh, where do I start with mine??! I love getting a mani and pedi. Then there’s my friend Veronica with her clothes boutique up the road! But ultimate indulgence? Watching a chick flick, with a glass of crisp white wine and a packet of S&V chips. Sssshh, don’t tell my gym! 🙂

  • My indulgence is definitely books. I have a To Be Read list as long as my arm and a pile of unread books just as long! My other indulgence that I rarely get to satisfy is spa treatments. I love dreaming about spending a day at the spa and all the treatments I would get!

  • TeganMC

    My indulgence, which I try to do once a week is taking myself out for either a milkshake or lunch and then just sit and people watch. I see some interesting things and it’s nice to sit and eat without a little voice asking 500 questions.

  • Kaz @ MeltingMoments

    I am a big food porn fan myself. Long showers are my indulgence 🙂 Ah, the peace!

  • My indulgence is lying in my big white bed that feels like it’s in the sky reading a book at night (and in the mroning as I guiltily watch my hubby get ready for work). It’s important to make sure we indulge in our indulgences often! Popping over from the Rewind

  • Emma Fahy Davis

    Sleep is my ultimate indulgence, boring but true!

  • I too have my morning coffee with my laptop, feels great to connect with world but my biggest indulgence would be cooking and baking each day followed by reading a great book after the kids are in bed – provided I don’t fall asleep after the first page! xx

  • My indulgences usually start with thinking about all of the places I am so very keen to travel to, and then to places over seas.
    I used to love chocolate, but lately I have gone off it and now love healthier choices…I dream of having a chef who can cook me meals any time of the day – meals that make me look healthy!
    I also LOVE the idea of having enough sheets to change our bed every single day.
    I would love a bath tub, with lots of wonderful bubble bath lotion {organic sleepy lotion}
    I would love to be able to adopt children from over seas….I would love to travel to a village and build a house for a family….
    I dream big and wished I could stay in my dreams all day long!
    Like your morning wake up coffee ritual – that bedroom looks incredible!

  • www.createbakemake.com

    Oooh, this is a tough one! I think my favourite indulgence is enjoying a HOT cup of coffee in the stillness and peace of early morning before my boys are up…. Runners up would certainly include getting lost in food magazines/websites/blogs, having a leisurely hot shower and taking my boys out for breakfast x

  • Housewife in Heels

    My home too is an extension of Toys R Us. I wish I could have some adult decode around, but am afraid I’m hostage to an almost 2 year old who is hell bent on destroying anything of value! I indulge in sweets and alcohol. P.S. I was meaning to wish you a happy first blog anniversary, but I was trying to think of something witty to say to win that Coach bag, that I never got around to it!!! But I love your blog, and wish you many happy blog anniversaries to come x

  • Homewares – the looking at and the coveting off is definitely an indulgence of mine. A once-a-week movie is my other true vice. I love it. x

  • I think having indulgences is important. Mine is coffee! And scrolling through Instagram. I never get to read these days, sadly, so I take any little things I can get. x

  • Oh and comedy or a movie every night with Husband. x

  • Sugandha

    Yep – you ticked boxes on my indulgences as well. I totally do the same with ASOS and the homeware and design sites (LOVE West Elm, Pottery Barn etc). I then get so inspired that I immediately look up houses in my neighbourhood to see if there are any for sale in my budget that I could possibly buy and dream of all the ways I could decorate it (This goes without being said – I cannot afford half the houses there lol).

    Red wine is another indulgence. Probably a little too often these days…but it’s colllllllld here in the UK. And I need it to survive the winter. Yep. I’m totally sticking to that 😀

  • I didn’t even know Zara had a Home Site.. I tend to shop from my own to support all out stores but for the more run of the mill items pottering through Anthropolgie is such bliss and they have some pretty decent sales sometimes too 🙂

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